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Family Stories l Chapter 10 - Hannah Moyse

Here on our blog we’re shining a light on Mums from all walks of life. In this article we talk to Hannah Moyse, mum of four, based in Cornwall, United Kingdom, read on to see what she has to say on all things parenting…

 

1. What does Parenting mean to you?

To me parenting means I have a purpose in life. Having little people who look up to me and need me to look after, protect and nurture them. It's something I have always wanted to be since being a little girl playing with dolls. It's giving them everything they need and more, reliving your own childhood through their eyes and remembering all the amazing things you experienced as a child. Every parent wants to give their child the world but in reality you are their world and they would much rather have you over everything else. 

 

2. How did your life changed after having your first child?

Wow, life changed massively. We were only 18 when our first baby was born. We were clueless and scared. All of a sudden you have this little person and they need constant care so you're no longer able to lead the life of the average 18 year old. You have to put this little person first. Also I guess a major change is the routine that babies bring. But this is something I've grown to love over the last 10 years of parenting I've had! Having to get up early, make breakfast lunch and dinner at certain times or you end up with teasy toddlers. Making sure there's a good bedtime routine so that you can have at least a couple of hours alone time before you take yourself to bed, only to wake up and do it all over again. Adjusting to the lack of sleep that comes with being a parent is also a massive change but it's all for good reason I'm sure every parent will agree.

 

3.In your opinion, what’s the most rewarding aspect of parenting?

The main thing would be all the cuddles and knowing that no matter what, there's a little person who loves you and needs you. Children will give you all the love you need if you let them. 

But also I love all the times where their personality shines or they do something selflessly for someone else and you get a glimpse of the caring person that they are growing up to be and that gives you such a  rewarding feeling of knowing your doing something right, especially when alot of the time parents feel like they are failing at things or struggling to be the parent they thought they would be. 

4.How is Parenting today comparing to the way you have been raised by your parents?

I would say that the main difference is that I spent a lot more time outside at a younger age. But that could be because there wasn't so much to be worried about back then, or there was but there was no social media to highlight such things. Talking of social media, I don't have memories of my parents sat down scrolling Facebook or Instagram because the Internet didn't exist. My mum would be doing housework or baking cakes, which is something I feel guilty of not doing enough of. I don't think the Internet and social media are necessarily bad though, I just feel maybe sometimes we as parents are sucked in too much when we could be spending that time actively with our children. 

One thing I have definitely taught my children that I was taught by my parents is kindness. Being kind to other children, especially at school, at the park, everywhere! There is enough hate, worry and bullying in the world as it is so that's one thing they definitely had to learn fast. Treat others as you'd like to be treated. 

5.What was the hardest moment in this journey, as a family, to overcome? 

There have been lots of challenges over the last 10 years. The hardest ones are most definitely the health scares along the way. Olivia, our 2 year old had a lump in her leg at 1 year old. We were fast tracked for cancer screening and thankfully all was fine and has been ever since, but it definitely puts things into perspective very quickly! I think as parents you are constantly worrying about them, every cough, cold, bump etc so that is definitely one of the hardest parts of parenting. On the other hand, one of the biggest obstacles to overcome was the transition from 1 child to 2, 3, 4 etc! In hindsight, now I realise how easy having one child was. All that one on one time and then when the second comes along you then have to split that time between them. For me as a mum I've found that having our 4th was the hardest because he wasnt necessarily planned to exist so soon, our youngest had only just turned 1 when we conceived him so she still seemed like a baby and all of a sudden had to grow up so quickly to make room for her brother. That meant vacating our bed and moving into her own room and also weaning off the breast. By far it has been the hardest year of our lives adjusting to the changes we've faced but I still wouldn't change it for the world. 

 

6. What annoys you the most about Parenting?

This is an easy one for me. It's definitely the judging that you feel from other parents. Whether it be the whole bottle or breast debate or whether you let your child have a dummy, to the whole weaning saga, EVERYONE has an opinion and they're not afraid to tell you. I tend to keep my nose out of other people's business, you parent how you want to parent but unfortunately some people like to have an input and recently I've been on the receiving end. Back in 2019 when we announced we were having a baby I was actually stunned by the amount of comments I had, not of congratulations but 'I hope it's a boy for you' comments. Even to the point I'd be in a shop with the girls (all 3 of them) and people would spot my belly and come over and say 'I bet you hope it's a boy'. It made me so angry at the time. But now he's here the comments and judging don't stop! All the time I'll get people say 'you can stop now that you've got a boy' and to be honest I never know what to say back to them, I just get left a bit red faced and flustered by the cheek of their comment. We would have had 4 children regardless, that was our number we had in our head, it didnt matter what they were at all but I guess people are always going to have a comment about everything you do. 

 

7. Now is your chance to embarrass your kid – tell me an embarrassing story

Oh I've been embarrassed plenty of times I can assure you. One time that springs my mind is being stood in the queue at a supermarket and Lola (our eldest who was only about 6 at the time) turned to me and started talking about the man stood in front of us rather loudly as kids do! She very confidently told me that his head was on upside down, all because he was bold but had a huge beard! He heard her and luckily didn't take her comment to heart, instead just turned to me and smiled but my gosh I could have let the floor swallow me up. 

 

We’re gonna continue our series, Family Stories, here on the blog, to point out the ups and downs of being a parent, there is no doubt that there is more ups than downs and over time all those bad moments and challenges, they pale compared to the good things, so many good things…

 

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