Here on our blog we’re shining a light on Mums from all walks of life. In this article we talk to Ellie, a mum to Isla Rose, she’s based in Portsmouth, United Kingdom. Read on to see what she has to say on all things parenting…
What does Parenting mean to you ?
Parenting to me means giving this life to another person. Nurturing, caring and loving them for the rest of their lives. Reliving my childhood through the eyes of my child, experiencing new things with them and making new memories. Although I gave up to some things in my life for this little baby, she gave me a whole new meaning to my life, so I am perfectly fine with that.
How did your life changed after having your first child ?
Life changed quite a lot after having my little girl. Some friends found it hard to understand that I couldn’t just get someone to babysit her, so that I could go out. Sometimes, these things are hard to explain to friends, because it is something you would understand only if you would be in that position. My relationship took a hit in the early days, as well. I was always tired and had no energy to do anything, so my relationship suffered as a result of this. I think that’s something that no one really tells you about, like other things about this whole journey, but maybe it is meant to be this way, to discover on your own, and after you overcome these challenges you will be more confident and appreciate life and the little things more.
In your opinion, what’s the most rewarding aspect of parenting?
The most rewarding bit of parenting is seeing your babies face when they see you walk into the room, pick them up from nursery, maybe school or just seeing them in the morning. Knowing that that little baby relies on you for everything, and to them, you are their everything. Seeing them grow and develop everyday and knowing you helped to create that. It is also a huge responsability on your shoulders, maybe the biggest one in life.
How is Parenting today comparing to the way you have been raised by your parents ?
I think that social media plays a huge part in the way that people parent today and how open people are about their parenting choices. When I was born, social media wasn’t really a thing, so people didn’t have other folks constantly judging you, or what you were doing with your child. I think that’s what affects parents these days. Social Media has its good sides as well, but I feel we have to be very careful with the bad ones. It's all about balance. You need to be aware that life on Social Media seems perfect, when it is not always like that, you need to be careful not to compare yourself with other parents and just to understand that whatever works for them, for their family, it might not work for you. So this is the difference, in my opinion, the way that Social Media impacts our life, as a family.
What was the hardest moment in this journey, as a family, to overcome?
The hardest moment was probably the sleep (still is) but the early days are so, so hard. I was told 'sleep when the baby sleeps', but there is so much other stuff to do when they’re sleeping. You have to eat, shower, clean the house and so on, therefore, sometimes there’s just no time to nap! Once you get used to it, you get yourself into a little routine. My little girl also had colic and reflux so for us that was also really, really hard. Now, everything is better, we pretty much got ourselves used with the idea that "sleep" it's a bit of luxury sometimes but as long as she is happy, we are happy too.
What annoys the most about Parenting ?
Nothing really annoys me about parenting, it’s more about the way people have an opinion on every single thing about your parenting. Like I said earlier, I think sometimes it makes this less enjoyable, when you feel like everyone is judging you! Although I do hate a messy house, so getting every toy out and then only playing with a piece of paper does really annoy me hahah!
Now is your chance to embarrass your kid – tell me an embarrassing story
My little girl is only 11 months old so nothing embarrassing has really happened. But we have had many poo’s in the bath, which I am sure will be embarrassing for her when she is older!
We’re gonna continue our series, Family Stories, here on the blog, to point out the ups and downs of being a parent, there is no doubt that there is more ups than downs and over time all those bad moments and challenges, they pale compared to the good things, so many good things…
Want to share your family story with us ? Get a hold of us here.