Here on our blog we’re shining a light on Mums from all walks of life. In this article we talk to Lauren, mum of Mia and Millie, she’s based in Newcastle, United Kingdom. Read on to see what she has to say on all things parenting…
What does Parenting mean to you ?
I grew up in a loving environment, with family members always in contact with each other, I was very close to my mom, unfortunately, she passed away last year, but I was always going to her, when I felt something was wrong, or maybe I needed advice from her, so for me Parenting means to offer my kids the same affection I got from my parents, specially from my mother, to be there for them with advice and to sum it up, whatever they need in order to become whatever they want in this life. So I learned a lot growing up in my family and honestly, I am trying to have the same approach with my children.
How did your life changed after having your first child ?
This is a tough one. In a certain way, it made me more mature, I was pretty young when I had my first one, to be honest, I was a bit confused about my life, what I am doing with it and so on. After having my kids, my life changed, I realised what is important in life and also, I got to the conclusion that I need to become a bit more serious about my life, kinda of stepping up the game, if we can call it like that.
In your opinion, what’s the most rewarding aspect of parenting?
For me, I love coming home and just see them and listen to them. They are so happy to see me and when I hear them saying "mommy, I love you" it just makes my heart melt and I forget all the challenges or what happened that day. It just makes my day to hear their words...joy and love is in the small things.
How is Parenting today comparing to the way you have been raised by your parents ?
Everyone is different, everyone has a different style of Parenting or a different approach to this whole journey, there is no right or wrong. But I do think that today, Social Media has a huge impact in the way we bring up our children. I think the most annoying one is the fact that we always compare each other with other parents, which is not alright and in the same time, it is pretty hard not to, because you see things everyday, you are bombarded with information on how you should do this or that and so on. It is also easy to portray something that is not true. Social Media definitely has its good things as well, but you have to be careful with it.
What was the hardest moment in this journey, as a family, to overcome?
For us, the hardest moment was after Mia was born, when she was about 3 weeks old, she had an illness, pyloric stenosis, it is related to the muscles in the stomach, she went for surgery and that was a turning point for me. Now, she is fine, happy and looking towards the future, as for myself, I cannot be happier than this.
What annoys the most about Parenting ?
One of the most annoying things for me, is already mentioned. Is the comparing thing, on Social Media, even on the streets, you see parents and start asking yourself "Should I do that?", in reality you do not need to compare yourself with anyone else.
I also think, that dads are ignored sometimes in this Parenting thing. Like everyone asks about the mom, how is she feeling, how is she handling things, but no one really asks about dads. At the end of the day, they play a big role as well, it is hard for them too. There is a lot of pressure, on both of them, maybe at different levels, depending on the situation and family, but they deserve attention as well.
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